Alright here we go! This is a topic I have been trying to figure out for the longest. Although I did not know all the facts.. after a while I stopped liking it when someone says “she’s all about women empowerment” and though, coming from a good place, feminism it self is a misleading movement for women.
Let me ask you this.. have you ever thought ” I don’t want to get married” or “I don’t want to have kids” “Showing emotions is for the weak” “I have to be aggressive”.. or maybe you have thought about how strong you are perceived as a “strong independent woman”.. now, for the record, to my experience.. when I used to think this way, on the outside I looked like I had it all together, but really I had a lot of misplaced trust, confusion, and brokenness.
This blog isn’t to convince you why feminism isn’t ideal to God’s plan, but to shed light on how this movement may even be hurting you or someone you know. It hurt me a lot and for years I couldn’t figure it out why I couldn’t find my identity and the truth is, I had a huge misconception of what it really means to be a woman. I actually didn’t even appreciate being a woman and wanted to be aggressive and independent. ( there is nothing wrong with being independent, but when you feel you have to put on a mans role too.. thats where the problem lies. )
So let us begin!
What is the origin of feminism?
Because I LOVE definitions.. lets start with what is feminism defined as. Feminism is the belief in social, economic, and political equality of the sexes. Though feminism STARTED with a real need and want for the pain women carried such as voting or even marrying by choice.. today it is not the same. This movement is for all women, but have you ever noticed that women who are pro-life were rejected from even the women’s march? Ironically, a male was the one who came up with feminism in 1837 who goes by the name of Charles Foier (sorry hope I spelled his name right). Now though feminism at first glance SOUNDS like a good idea.. I mean we all want to ” feel” like we are entitled to things right? It is human nature, but not in God’s Word. So the modern movement doesn’t make sense. The reality is that modern feminism is designed as an attack for God’s design on womanhood.
In fact, let us take a quick look at the Declaration of Feminism:
Declared in 1971 stating: ” The end of the institution of marriage is necessary for liberation of women. Therefore, it is important for us to encourage women to leave their husbands and not live with them.”
Hmm… if you took a good look at society TODAY, would you not agree this is exactly WHAT is happening in many cases? Broken homes are happening more often. The rise of feminism has become so strong that even unfortunately for some men.. they can no longer be the man of the house because women feel so entitled to “being independent”. And though, there is nothing wrong with wanting to get your “bag” as a woman it is vitally important to remember WHY God places a man in our lives and though sex is great, it is not the only reason! Men and women have different roles which we will talk about soon.
But let us continue, If you do your research most women behind feminism can even trace back to ancient female religions such as witchcraft.. even making statements from someone such as Gloria Stein who wants children to believe in human potential and not God.
So you see here why the Bible says in Ephesians 6:12 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” Satan is not after you– he is after what GOD has placed IN you and if he can skew your identity.. he can lead you down the places he wants you to go which may feel good but in the end leads to destruction.
If you look around in the world, everything wants to infiltrate children and you might ask, “Ashley, what does this have to do with feminism?” I say everything.. as kids we are the most absorbent and they believe if they can start kids young on what is “normal” to them.. when you’re older it is harder to break ways of thinking and some people just stay with the same paradigm and don’t change it ever… so guess who wins? they do because now they have instilled their plan in you since you were a kid.
Growing up this is how I thought, I remember having pivotal moments in college questioning God.. “Why does it feel like women have to prepare themselves for men?” and this question alone is where I believe my journey to discovering what God’s plan for womanhood is. Because women, we do NOT prepare ourselves for men. WE prepare ourselves for God. We are here on earth above anything else to please and worship God. It is important that everything we do aligns with that.
Feminism may tell you “My body. my choice”. However, because we were created BY God and for God.. it is God’s womanhood.. God’s way. “What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?” See, satan did not want God’s authority.. he wanted his own and that is what feminism encourages. “You are your own god”.
What are the differences?
This will be stemmed off of Titus 2:3-5 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
|Love husbands||Be independent of husband|
|Love children||Praises aborting children|
|Be self-controlled||Promotes the “wild woman” lifestyle|
|Be pure||Fights for sexual autonomy|
|Stay home and raise children||Encourage women to get away from homes and call it “bondage” of homemaking|
|Be kind||One of anger and bitterness towards men and even others|
|Be submissive||Encourages women to rebel submission and authority|
Now that we have contrasted we can see that this movement has an agenda of anti-christ and the spirit of satan to remove God out of the picture and put ourselves as gods by doing this we are putting ourselves first and not allowing ourselves to yield to God and His authority neither the things He wants to instill in our lives.
Does Gender Matter?
The purpose of a human being is to glorify God and to reflect Him, but you may be asking well how do we glorify God? We honor and obey His word and display His character through us in our actions and daily being. God was very intentional on how He made man and woman to be. As mentioned before, the enemy likes to plant seeds that cause distortion of God’s image. For example, someone who asks themselves “What if I was a man?” may plant seeds that cause distortion simply because you cannot allow your mind to be consumed in what ifs. Trust me, gender matters! God created harmony, but sin is what brings root causes of inequality such as women being mistreated or having no voice. What happens is that first oppression happens and then come rebellion.
If we do not submit to God we will rebel… then there’s instances where the spirit of jezebel comes into play (more on this next week) and because it enters now we want to dominate and control but when we submit ourselves to the authority of God that is when hearts change.
Women and that Cringy Word : Submission
I get it, for us women, the word submission can make us cringe.. in fact, I used to feel like I WAS less than a man and had this sense of being against vulnerability but you have to think.. “What if I am not respected or taken advantage of? I hate feeling inferior” ” if a man can do it, why not me?” My question those those is who TAUGHT you to think you were inferior? Now do you see the connection? Feminism plants seeds in your mind that God never said we were. God says women are the weaker vessel which is why we need protection spiritually and physically.. as a woman we have to be okay with that. Weaker does not mean lame, but why would you want to be as strong as a man? why would you want to think like a man? would you not agree that takes away from the grace and flow us women have? Women provide help, companionship, gentle and let us talk about how we can multi-task like we were born for it. Have you ever seen a man try to multi-task? Because it isn’t necessarily how they are wired. NOW, I get it because of sin and choices, some men can abuse their strength and women can then become fearful. These are moments to heal from.
If there is anything I can encourage you to do today is to submit all of your fears and trust God. HE created us and is the only one that validates us as people.
So Are We Equal?
The short answer is, yes! Yes we are equally made before God and yes we must BOTH submit. However, HOW we submit is very different.
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7
We both submit and follow God’s authority because in the end the result is the same.. the enemy wants to find open doors in which he can start to infiltrate our lives. Submission has nothing to do with value of human being, but with God’s order in which to live in harmony.
Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of yoube subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble. 1 Peter 5:5
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Ephesians 5:21
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 1 Corinthians 11:3
At the end of the day, submitting is giving honor and respect.. no it does not mean be quiet when spoken to. NO it does not mean bowing down to your husband and being a dormat. It is a standard set in order to keep that harmony.
You see, marriage is the earthly example of Christ and the church. As women, we have to trust that God will do what he needs to with our husband as He does what He needs to with us. If your man is not leading how you want him to.. take it to God.. God always has the final say and often what we think needs to change in others is what needs to change in us… because for example.. you want God to change him but have you ever thought maybe you’re the controlling one? You see– perspective. Always trust God and bring all things to Him. Men need honor and us women need love and understanding. Honor shows more of you. When a man is honored, he will show and express his love to you. Men loved to be validated.
Value of Women
God says we are the light of this world. Is feminism an answer to women’s oppression? I do not think so! The answer is in God’s Word. There IS a specific purpose for women. To be honest, it is a waste of life to fight for your rights and to do what God has call us to do.
- Jesus was born through a birthing process
God places a high esteem at the fact that JESUS himself came through a woman by choosing her. Think about it, it really does hold lots of value.
2. Jesus uses women to proclaim His resurrection. During this time women did not have voices and He does this to break barriers…so that itself was a huge culture shock
3. God uses Deborah to get victory for a nation
These are just a few examples of how God uses women IN their womanhood to do some really great and impactful things. I want to leave you with this.. you cannot glorify God doing what society does. the Bible even says cursed is a man who trusts in another man. Just because feminism is a trend or others are doing it, does not mean that it is the correct view. Infact, since I stepped away from viewing myself as inferionr. I have been able to allow God to cultivate my gifts and USE me for HIS glory in ways that are authentic to how he created me to be… sister, He wants to do the same for you. Forget about what the world says is a trend or what it says it is good… know the root of where something comes from and cling and yield to WHO God says you are and TRUST that as a woman HE sees and holds value for YOU. YOU are not a second thought. You have purpose. You are not a rug. You are chosen and this is YOUR time to overcome what the world believes you should be and be the light. The solution you are looking for lies in God’s word.
I pray Lord anyone reading this that they may come to see you in a greater light. Show them WHO you have created them to be. They are not inferior. They are called. They have purpose and it is greater than just preparing for a husband. May they allow you to cultivate them and heal heart wounds even those they are not aware of. May they take this journey with you into wholeness and Biblical womanhood. Thank You Lord. In Jesus’ name, Amen.